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Erotic art can be a turn-on for some.

Erotic art can be a turn-on for some.

Erotic art can be a turn-on for some.

Dear Angela: My husband (43) loves erotic pictures; they're a huge turn-on for him. He wants me to paint an erotic picture for our bedroom, not just a nude, but something real explicit and dirty.

I (37) could do that; I'm an amateur artist and I've painted erotic pictures before, but only for other people. I can't keep paintings like that in the house because I have teenage children.

My husband doesn't understand that. He says we should just keep our bedroom locked at all times but that's not an option for me. I don't want my kids to think we're hiding something - they're between 13 and 16 and they'd certainly get suspicious.

My husband and I keep fighting over this, and I can't see how we can solve the problem.

Answer: Instead of painting an erotic picture on canvas, go for a digital picture frame. They come in different models and sizes, as stand-alone or wall-mounted.

To keep your erotic pictures away from your teens, choose a model that works with a memory stick. If you'd like something a bit more adventurous, use your husband's body as a canvas.

Cover your bed in a latex sheet, get body paint, let your husband lie down and then paint a dirty picture on his nude body. For an unforgettable treat, use edible paint.

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It’s natural to get noisy in the bedroom

It’s natural to get noisy in the bedroom

It’s natural to get noisy in the bedroom

 

Worried I am too noisy during sex

Dear Angela: I have always been noisy during sex, but it has become much worse since I (33) met my new boyfriend (29). He is so good in bed that I forget everything around me when we make love.

I whimper, squeal, moan and scream, and half the time I'm so aroused and out of it that I don't even realise what I'm doing. I can't help it - I get so caught up in sex that I just get carried away. My boyfriend is completely different; he is quiet and controlled, and he hardly makes a sound when we're in bed together.

All I hear is some heavy breathing and a little grunt when he has his climax, and that's it. He has never complained about all the noise I make, but I'm worried that he might hate it and that it puts him off me.

Should I try to be less noisy to be on the safe side?

Answer: I can't see why you should be quieter in bed, so don't spoil your fun.

Most men love to hear their partner's sex noises; they are an expression of lust and desire and show how much they're enjoying themselves.

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So unless you hear any complaints - from either your boyfriend, from housemates or close neighbours you might have - there is no need to reign yourself in to keep the volume down.

Boyfriend wants us to do it in the bath

Query: MY boyfriend wants us to have sex in the bath tub. He says we can do that without a condom because the hot water kills his sperm. I'm not sure about this. Is that true?

Answer: Sperm is sensitive to heat and can't survive long in hot water, but if you have vaginal sex you can still end up becoming pregnant. A hot bath is not a safe method of birth control, so use protection.

Looking for a quickie

Query: I (30) never sleep with the same girl more than once. I always look after the girls properly and make sure that they climax, but sometimes I'd love to just have a care-free quickie. I guess that's not on, though?

Answer: It depends. Most women expect you to make an effort and look after them, but in some situations a quickie can be fine as well. If there is any doubt, either check whether a quickie would be OK, or spoil your partner properly.

 

  • Email your sexual problems to Dr Angela Brokmann dr.angela@sundayworld.com

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