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Dressing your child the same as yourself is all a bit Stepford Daughters

'But some of us feel it's all a bit Stepford Daughters and how big is your ego if you think the universe needs your clone?'
Serena Williams and her daughter Alexis Olympia posing on Instagram in matching outfits.

Serena Williams and her daughter Alexis Olympia posing on Instagram in matching outfits.

Roisin Gorman

The ultimate accessory is back in town. A child who's dressed just like her mother. 'Mummy and Me' matching appears to have sneaked back in when no one was looking, ably assisted by M&S, designer brands and Serena Williams, who just can't help herself when it comes to little Alexis Olympia and a cute swimsuit.

The world is divided into parents who love a mini-me, cherish a bit of mummy-and-cherub dressing and can't buy an outfit without wondering if there's a size for their six-year-old. It's about bonding and expressing familial love apparently.

Then there are those of us who think it's all a bit Stepford Daughters and how big is your ego if you think the universe needs your clone?

Twinning has been around for years, since Jeanne Lanvin dressed her mini-me in big-me clothes and the ladies who lunch pounced like they'd never seen a toddler-sized evening dress before.

We've all now seen a toddler-sized evening dress thanks to Kim K and little North West who have rocked a backless silver number, and even have matching fur coats. I would ask if someone needs a doll to play with, but clearly Kim's already got one.

The luxe market has well and truly grabbed the trend with both hands because what style-conscious parent doesn't want their child in a matching avocado body suit? Just ask Chrissy Teigen.

Beyoncé and Blue Ivy have rocked hers and hers Gucci and D&G, the world now has Baby Dior - and Princess Di was known to co-ordinate an outfit or two with her young sons, which may be where bonding becomes, 'What were you thinking?'

I had a small moment of anxiety recently that I had become a mini-me mummy after lending my daughter a dress for a wedding, at around the same time my mother asked me to buy her a T-shirt I'd just got.

Would we tip over into co-ordinating outfits and spend a summer in matching florals, frolicking in daisy meadows and posting idyllic pictures on social media?

Does this mean I've turned into Serena, just without the stonking abs?

For the love of Vogue, if I become a woman who wants to dress like someone else, however much I love them, I'll have to send my DMs back and get a Boden catalogue.

With some careful consideration, and a bit of grounded rationalisation, I've decided that since I'm not there when the daughter is wearing the same dress it doesn't count, and if we're not in the same room no one can hear my muffled tears that it looks better on her, and my waist used to be that size. And if my mother likes something I'm wearing I'll take that as a compliment.

We share lives and respect each other's opinions so it's natural we'll loosely share a dress sense. And it was a nice T-shirt.

There's even a name for mothers who share their daughter's tastes, the consumer doppelganger effect, and psychologists say when partners dress alike it's a sign of male surrender.

Fathers who share their son's tastes don't get a special label since they're marooned in the shirt/top and trousers combo land of male dressing. Even David and Brooklyn Beckham are stuck there, no matter how many matching hats they have.

But when it comes to dressing kids surely the only rules are that it's comfortable, mud-proof and machine washable. I'm still living by that.

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