ASK THE EXPERTS 'Dear Maura, Should I tell her that he is cheating?'
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There are a number of things to ask yourself: how are you going to contact this woman? Will she believe you? Does she suspect already but is letting things be? Think everything through fully. You have walked away from this and your wounds are healing nicely. Be conscious of how much toxic energy you could be contaminated by in your effort to 'out' this man. The ending isn't always as we imagine it in these situations. Think before you speak, for your own sake.
Dad won't talk about him
Dear Maura, I'm 19 and with my boyfriend nearly a year. We get on great. This is my first real relationship. I had a boyfriend in TY, but this is different. I'm writing because my dad is acting weird around the situation. He never says my boyfriend's name. It's always 'your little buddy'. Sometimes when there's an attempt at a conversation, he keeps looking at the TV or his phone. My mam thinks he's uncomfortable with me being in a relationship. Maybe he is, but he should talk to me about it. I'm getting really annoyed with him and I don't want to be this way. MAURA SAYS: I think your dad understands the relationship is serious and he's afraid of losing you. That part of your life is over and he isn't ready to accept this. By not saying your boyfriend's name, he is pretending that it's not happening. However, he needs to grow up and show respect to your boyfriend by giving him his full attention when he's visiting - that's just basic manners. Your mother must talk to him and set him straight on his behaviour. He's making the situation awkward for all of you. Cop on dad!