Dear Maura: My partner was bullied for being a gay man — and doesn’t want to wed
“I feel that if we got married he would be more confident as a gay man and would really feel safe because he’s with someone who’s totally committed to him”
Maura O'NeillSunday World
Dear Maura:We’re two gay men looking for happiness but I’ve still a way to go because my partner has refused to marry me. We’ve been in a relationship for five years and just moved into our new home.
I thought this was the perfect occasion to make us official. He took a long time to come out and I hope that’s what this is all about. He loves me but why won’t he marry me? Loads of our friends have tied the knot recently.
He’s very shy and doesn’t like to be affectionate, especially in public. School was a very bad time for him and he was bullied because he was gay. Nothing was done about it. His family have come around but his brother makes stupid jokes still when he has his friends with him.
I feel that if we got married he would be more confident as a gay man and would really feel safe because he’s with someone who’s totally committed to him. But I don’t know will I ever get him up the aisle?
If I keep at him he could just walk. I won’t be happy until we are married. There’s actually no reason why we shouldn’t be.