Dear Maura: ‘My family need to get over my affair – I just wasn’t happy’
They all love my former partner. We were in a relationship for seven years and have two daughters
My family is not happy with the new man in my life.
They all love my former partner. We were in a relationship for seven years and have two daughters. I understand how they feel. That’s why I don’t mind if they keep in touch and meet up with him.
But I want them to at least put on an act because it’s confusing for the kids who pick up on stuff so easily. I had an affair because at that time I wasn’t happy.
I couldn’t have said anything because they would’ve got me to work at my relationship and there was no point. We were bored with each other or at least I was.
I know their dad took the breakup badly and in the early days it was difficult seeing him call to the house to see the children. But I’m so much happier and in a better place. He hasn’t anyone in his life yet and still calls to my parents for Sunday dinner and during the week.
I think they’re upset with me too for having an affair but they’re not saying anything. I’ve talked to them and asked to give this man a chance at least. Nobody’s saying this is easy. I just want them to accept my family as it is now and let’s all move on.
Answer: You feel you’re still being judged for your affair by those close to you who are not making any effort to accept your current partner.
I understand you want them to simply acknowledge this person in your life but unfortunately emotionally it’s not easy for them.
You don’t mention how long ago your relationship ended.
In time they will accept this man when they see how happy he makes you and the children.
That will be very important for them. Invite them for a cup of tea even, anything to make a social occasion and let them see the family atmosphere in your home. They’re worried about you too and want what’s best for you. They’re not yet convinced that he fills that description.
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