Dear Angela: Should I tell my husband I know he’s a cross-dresser?

My husband (32) has a secret Instagram account where he posts as a cross-dresser. My cousin found it weeks ago but he wasn’t sure whether he should tell me or not.

Anyway, now I know. There are dozens of images of my husband posing in dresses and lingerie, wearing jewellery, make-up and nail polish.

At first I was a bit shocked, not because I have anything against cross-dressing, but simply because I had no idea that my husband is into it.

In most of the pictures he looks really good, sexy even. I’ve thought about this a lot, and I came to the conclusion that I’m ok with my husband’s feminine side. I just wish he wouldn’t hide it from me.

Do you think he’s afraid it would scare me off?

Answer: That’s well possible. Although it’s perfectly OK to wear whatever clothes you feel good and comfortable in, many men who cross-dress are afraid it might scare their partner off so they keep it secret.

Have a good chat with your husband. Tell him that you’ve seen his Instagram pictures and let him know how you feel about them. Assure him that he looks good — and sexy — and that you’re perfectly ok with this side of him. You can encourage him to be more open and confident about it.