Dear Angela: Should I tell my boyfriend why he never makes me scream in bed?
'I was hoping our sex life would get better in time, but it’s only getting worse'
Dr Angela Brokmann
My boyfriend (31) wants me to move in with him, but I (34) don’t think that’s a good idea so I told him I’d think about it.
He was disappointed, but there is a problem that we need to solve before we take such a big step in our relationship — I’m not happy with our sex life, and while I was hoping it would get better in time it’s only getting worse.
My boyfriend has no idea — I could tell him exactly where he goes wrong, but I know from past experience that men can’t take criticism, especially regarding their skills in bed.
Is there any chance that our sex life will improve without intervention?
Answer: It’s very unlikely that your sex life will miraculously improve without some initiative from your side. If you know where your boyfriend goes wrong, give him constructive feedback.
Tell or show him what he should do to please you, and let him know what doesn’t work for you.
It’s true that most men find it hard to deal with criticism in the bedroom, as it undermines their confidence and self-esteem. So instead of criticizing your man, encourage him with hints and tips to make him a better lover.
Take a positive approach; reward his efforts with moans and praise.