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"At home he wears a collar around his neck, and when it’s time to go to bed, I attach a leash and bring him up to the bedroom"

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Embrace your kinky side in a safe space

Embrace your kinky side in a safe space

Embrace your kinky side in a safe space

Sort your sexual problems with honest and practical tips from Dr Angela Brokmann

Dear Angela: MY boyfriend (32) loves to play a submissive role in our relationship. At home he wears a collar around his neck, and when it’s time to go to bed, I attach a leash and bring him up to the bedroom.

We’ve been doing that for years and it used to be enough to satisfy my boyfriend’s kink, but he wants to move things up a notch. He has now asked me to bring him out to the park for a walk on his leash, and in broad daylight.

It would be a huge turn-on for both of us, but I’m afraid that we’d get laughed at, or worse. And what if we bumped into people we know? It would be so embarrassing.

Answer: If your boyfriend wants to be walked on a leash and you’re comfortable with it, that’s fine as long as you don’t display any potentially disturbing behaviour that might alarm or offend innocent passers-by.

You’d surely get some stares and people might laugh, but that’s mainly because they got caught by surprise, and not necessarily because they have any serious issue with your kink. Most people are surprisingly relaxed and accepting.

Still, instead of acting out your kink in broad daylight, you should wait until its night-time; or even better, play among like-minded souls, like at a fetish meet.

Email your problems to
Dr Angela Brokmann dr.angela@sundayworld.com
Maura O’Neill maura.oneill@sundayworld.com
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