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Not so sweet Dear Angela: I’m worried my teenage daughter has a sugar daddy

"I don’t want my baby girl to give herself away to an old man who in return buys her stuff or gives her money"

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Any parent would be concerned about their daughter dating a much older man

Any parent would be concerned about their daughter dating a much older man

Any parent would be concerned about their daughter dating a much older man

Sort your sexual problems with honest and practical tips from Dr Angela Brokmann

Dear Angela: I (46) didn't mean to eavesdrop, but I overheard my 18-year-old daughter on the phone the other day. She was talking to some guy, and she clearly said ‘I love being your sugar baby’. What the heck does that mean?

When I asked my daughter who she was talking to, she said it was a guy she’s been seeing for a few weeks now, and then she clammed up.

I get bad vibes from this. I don’t want my baby girl to give herself away to an old man who in return buys her stuff or gives her money.

Normally I wouldn’t be this worried, but over the last few weeks my daughter has brought home some expensive clothes that I’m sure she can’t afford on her own money.

Answer: First of all, sometimes teenagers play sugar baby/sugar daddy games among themselves for a kick, or even just for a laugh. So it’s well possible that your daughter’s sugar daddy is no older than she is.

Or maybe your daughter was only messing on the phone, with a guy who simply likes to spoil her without taking advantage of her.

To be on the safe side, have a chat with her. Talk about what’s important in a relationship; try to get across that she deserves to be treated with love and respect.

Email your problems to
Dr Angela Brokmann dr.angela@sundayworld.com
Maura O’Neill maura.oneill@sundayworld.com
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