Dear Angela: I’m bored in bed, is it OK to stimulate myself during sex?
Tell or show your partner how to hit the spot in bed
Sort your sexual problems with honest and practical tips from Dr Angela Brokmann
Dear Angela,
I (37) never have an orgasm when I sleep with my husband. He either doesn't know or doesn't care. He even has the nerve to ask whether it was good for me when we're finished.
I always give him quick answers like "Sure" because when I'm honest and say "No", we only end up having unpleasant discussions. Then I have to assure him that "No, I've not gone off him". And "No, I'm not sleeping with somebody else".
My husband only wants me to stroke his ego, and that's the last thing I want to do when I'm lying beside him, frustrated and unsatisfied.
I'd love to just touch myself during intercourse, but the one time I did it my husband said that I don't have to do that, and that it's his job.
To be fair, he tried to touch me but he got it all wrong. I'd like to try again, but without having to explain myself.
Read more
Answer: Go for it. If your husband asks what's wrong, say that you'd just like to try something new.
Your husband might find your initiative a bit irritating at first, but once he sees how much you enjoy it he'll be happy to let you work away.
But you should also tell or show him how HE can stimulate you properly.
Today's Headlines
assassin | Johnny Adair pictured carrying coffin of UDA hitman Sam ‘Skelly’ McCrory at Scottish funeral
Remanded | Polish pilot charged over €8.4m Westmeath cocaine seizure prepares fresh bail bid
Off Duty | Line of Duty star Martin Compston enjoys family holiday in west Cork
DECIES RETURN | Davy Fitzgerald confirmed at Waterford hurling manager for second time
'Filthy' | Exposed: Four Irish restaurants shut down as ‘live rats’ and ‘rodent droppings’ found
Remanded in custody | Man (36) appears in court charged with murder of Sean McCarthy at his Dublin home
Puck this | Puck Fair goat brought down from cage 50ft above Kerry town due to heat concerns
notorious | Fed-Up Neighbours of ‘Mr Mayhem’ Peter Brady write to MP for help
Home & Away | Una Healy’s ex Ben Foden swaps rugby for real estate career in New York
brutal beating | New evidence suggests man jailed for 60 years for murder of Irish woman could be innocent