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RIGHT CLICK Dear Angela: I'm a virgin and my cyber girlfriend wants to meet for real sex

"I’d prefer to just have proper cyber sex for my first time, with toys and all"


It’s good to try and find love offline too

It’s good to try and find love offline too

It’s good to try and find love offline too

Sort your sexual problems with honest and practical tips from Dr Angela Brokmann

Dear Angela,

I (24) never had a real girlfriend yet, but for the last couple of years I’ve been in touch with a girl online.

We chat almost every day and we got real close. We send each other nudes and sometimes we masturbate together over webcam.

I love it — it’s so nice to be close to somebody without getting all physical.

I would love to keep things as they are but my girlfriend wants to meet me for real sex and that makes me nervous.

I never tried it before and I’m too embarrassed to admit that at my age.

I’d prefer to just have proper cyber sex for my first time, with toys and all.

Answer: Let your cyber girl know how you feel about her sex plans.

It’s perfectly OK to be a virgin at your age — or at any age. And if you’d like to try proper cyber sex before you go for the real deal that’s OK as well.

But technically, you can’t lose your virginity with cyber sex, and at some stage you should try to overcome your insecurities and get a love life in the real world as well.

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Meet your cyber girlfriend in person and see how you get on together. Don’t rush into having sex; for starters, go on a few dates and take it from there.

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