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Ask Dr Angela: My new boyfriend feels threatened by my XXL vibrators

"My new boyfriend (37) is OK with these fun toys, but he hates all my XXL-sized vibrators. He wants me to dump them because they make him feel small"
Sex toys can make some men feel insecure

Sex toys can make some men feel insecure

Dr Angela Brokmann

Sort your sexual problems with honest and practical tips from Dr Angela Brokmann

Dear Angela: I (42) bought my first vibrator when I was 19, and every year since I added another five or six to my collection. When word got around that I was collecting, people started giving me fun toys for my birthdays and for Christmas, like a tiny lipstick vibrator, or the famous rabbit vibrator.

My new boyfriend (37) is OK with these fun toys, but he hates all my XXL-sized vibrators. He wants me to dump them because they make him feel small. I don’t want to throw them out.

They’re my favourites and although I don’t use them now that I’m in a relationship, I might need them again in the future.

The problem is that my boyfriend has threatened to leave me if I don’t throw them out. We only met three weeks ago and I don’t want to lose him so soon. Should I give in and dump my sex toys?

Answer: No. Don’t throw out your sex toys for a man you just met.

If you don’t use your vibrators while you’re in a relationship, store them in a safe place for the moment, but make it unmistakably clear that you will keep your collection.

After seeing your XXL vibrators your new boyfriend probably feels a bit insecure in the size department, so assure him that you’re happy with him and his equipment.

Email your problems to Dr Angela Brokmann dr.angela@sundayworld.com Maura O’Neill maura.oneill@sundayworld.com All pictures are posed by models


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