Bad vibes Ask Dr Angela: My new boyfriend feels threatened by my XXL vibrators

"My new boyfriend (37) is OK with these fun toys, but he hates all my XXL-sized vibrators. He wants me to dump them because they make him feel small"

Sex toys can make some men feel insecure

Dr Angela Brokmann

April 03 2022 02:32 PM

Sort your sexual problems with honest and practical tips from Dr Angela Brokmann

Dear Angela: I (42) bought my first vibrator when I was 19, and every year since I added another five or six to my collection. When word got around that I was collecting, people started giving me fun toys for my birthdays and for Christmas, like a tiny lipstick vibrator, or the famous rabbit vibrator.

My new boyfriend (37) is OK with these fun toys, but he hates all my XXL-sized vibrators. He wants me to dump them because they make him feel small. I don’t want to throw them out.

They’re my favourites and although I don’t use them now that I’m in a relationship, I might need them again in the future.

The problem is that my boyfriend has threatened to leave me if I don’t throw them out. We only met three weeks ago and I don’t want to lose him so soon. Should I give in and dump my sex toys?

Answer: No. Don’t throw out your sex toys for a man you just met.

If you don’t use your vibrators while you’re in a relationship, store them in a safe place for the moment, but make it unmistakably clear that you will keep your collection.

After seeing your XXL vibrators your new boyfriend probably feels a bit insecure in the size department, so assure him that you’re happy with him and his equipment.

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