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Open-minded and practical, Dr Angela Brokmann has answered the nation's sex problems for 18 years. Here, she answers your dilemmas.

Dear Angela,

My husband (35) wants to try erotic food games. He didn't give me any details; he said I'm the one with a dirty mind, and that he was hoping I'd surprise him with something kinky.

The only thing I could think of was eating or more precisely sucking - a banana while my husband was watching, but when I did that he only laughed.

What else could I do? I'm a bit stuck here and I hope you can help. How do you play food games? Can you give me some ideas and tips? Or should I give up and leave it?


Don't give up after only one try, just go for a different approach.

For starters, place food stuff on your chest and belly and then invite your husband to have a snack. Or place treats on your husband's body.

You can use fruit, cream, chocolates, cherry tomatoes, olives, cheese or bite-sized bits of meat - whatever you fancy. Use your lips and tongues to pick and lick.

If you'd like to spice it up a notch, snack treats off each others' thighs or genitals. Let your fantasy roam.

I don't know where the g-spot is

Dear Angela,

Last night my fiancé (29) decided that he'd like to try and find my G-spot, but he couldn't locate it. He tried for ages, but wherever he poked around, it all felt the same to me. There was no magic area, no hidden pleasure spot that drove me crazy.

To be honest, I don't even believe that this G-spot really exists, because when I checked for it myself years ago I couldn't find it either. Or maybe there is a G-spot and I just don't have one. My fiancé is still determined to find it, but I think he's wasting his time. I don't even know where this G-spot is supposed to be.

Angela says:

It's still controversial whether the G-spot exists or not - some women swear they have this magic pleasure spot, but most are pretty sure that it's nothing but a myth.

If your fiancé wants to search for it again, give him directions: the G-spot is supposed to be located on the front vaginal wall, a couple of inches from the vaginal entrance. The best position for a G-spot hunt is girl on top, as the position allows you to experiment with different angles of penetration by leaning forward or back. You might never find the G-spot, but you can have a lot of fun trying. Just don't take the task too seriously.

He's so short that he keeps slipping out

Dear Angela,

My boyfriend's penis is so short that he keeps slipping out when we sleep together. It's ok when we get started, but when things get more heated he slips out at least once or twice. And that means that I hardly ever have an orgasm with him. Even if he does not slip out I'm always worried that it might happen.

I can't tell my boyfriend about this, he knows he's on the small side and it upsets him big time. Is there anything I could do, apart from talking to him?

Angela says:

There are some tricks you can use to ensure your boyfriend won't slip out when things get steamy. Get on top of him when you make love - it allows you to take charge and keep your boyfriend's movements in check.

When your boyfriend is on top, restrain his movements by encircling his pelvis with your legs or by keeping a firm grip on his bum.

Is armpit sex some new craze?

Dear Angela,

My lover (48) treated me to a sex game that was new to me - he put his penis into my armpit and then pushed in and pulled out like he was making love to me. It felt weird, but he seemed to love it. He even came that way. I don't mind doing him sexual favours, I mean, he's doing everything for me that I ask.

I'm just wondering whether armpit sex is a new craze. I've been sexually active for more than 30 years, and nobody ever did it to me before. So it surely must be a new thing. Or I've been living under a rock all that time, one or the other.

Angela says:

Armpit sex is one of the less common sexual practices out there, but it's certainly not a new craze. It has been around forever. Armpit sex - also called axillary sex - has not much appeal from a female point of view, but it can be good fun for the male partner: being a soft, warm and moist enclosed space, the armpit is not the worst place ever for a bit of teasing.

  • Email your problems to Dr Angela Brokmann: dr.angela@sundayworld.com or Maura O'Neill: maura.oneill@sundayworld.com

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