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Sex talk Ask Dr Angela: My husband wants to sleep with other people, should I agree?


Open-minded and practical, Dr Angela Brokmann has answered the nation's sex problems for 18 years. Here, she answers you dilemmas.

Dear Angela,

A couple of years ago my husband (53) cheated on me. It was only a one night stand and I (44) decided to forgive him. But I never had sex with him again.

At first I was too angry to even want sex, and then later on I kept refusing sex because I wanted to punish him. And at some stage I just felt that I don't need sex in my life to be happy, so I moved out of our shared bedroom for good.

That's when my husband threatened that he'll look for sex elsewhere if I don't want him anymore. But it's not that I don't want him; I still love my husband and don't want to lose him. But at this stage I'm kind of too stubborn to give in and sleep with him again. And I'm hurt that he's thinking of sleeping with somebody else.


First of all, you can't blame your husband for being frustrated and for thinking about finding sex elsewhere. Two years without sex is a long time, and it's certainly more than enough punishment for a one night stand.

If you still love your husband, you should truly forgive him and try to get your marital sex life back on track - otherwise you'll drive your husband into another woman's arms.

  • Have you got a dilemma? Get in touch! Email dr.angela@sundayworld.com.

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