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"He said he’d only clicked on a link that one of his mates had sent him by email. I don’t believe that — I’m not that stupid"

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Don’t bar someone from watching porn unless agreed.

Don’t bar someone from watching porn unless agreed.

Don’t bar someone from watching porn unless agreed.

Open-minded and practical, Dr Angela Brokmann has answered the nation's sex problems for 18 years. Here, she answers your dilemmas.

Dear Angela,

I (51) caught my husband (49) watching internet porn. I was watching TV while he was sitting on the couch beside me, checking his emails. When I glanced over to him, I saw a nude woman on his screen. She was all dolled up and caressing her fake boobs seductively.

I was furious; my husband is not allowed to watch porn. I made that very clear the first time I caught him watching smut years ago.

He didn’t even have the guts to admit that he was watching porn. He said he’d only clicked on a link that one of his mates had sent him by email. I don’t believe that — I’m not that stupid.

Why can’t my husband admit that he’s in the wrong? All I want is an apology but he insists that he’s completely innocent.

A: First of all, you can’t forbid your husband from watching porn, unless it’s some rule that you both agreed on.

Secondly, it’s well possible that your husband indeed clicked on a link that he received by email, not knowing what’s behind it. I mean, it’s very unlikely that he knowingly opened a porn site while you were sitting on the couch right beside him.

Don’t make such a big deal out of this, and don’t expect your husband to apologise as he didn’t do anything wrong.

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