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Ask Dr Angela: My boyfriend secretly masturbates before we have sex

"I know that for sure because I caught him in the bathroom one night"

Some guys don’t last in bed

Angela Brokmann

Sort your sexual problems with honest and practical tips from Dr Angela Brokmann

Dear Angela,

When we first got together my boyfriend (24) could only last for a couple of minutes when we slept together.

After about three weeks that suddenly changed, and now I (22) found out why: he secretly masturbates before we have sex.

I know that for sure because I caught him in the bathroom one night. He’d gone for a quick pee and when he still wasn’t back after five minutes I went to see what’s keeping him so long. And there he was, with one hand wrapped around his penis and working away.

At first he denied that he was masturbating, but then he admitted it and explained he’s only doing it to last longer when we sleep together.

I’m so mad at him. I don’t want him to touch himself. I mean, there must be other ways.

Answer: First of all, it’s OK for guys and girls to masturbate. Secondly, a quick hand job before sex is the easiest and most effective way to improve a man’s stamina during intercourse.

Your boyfriend only wants to make sure that he can last long enough to satisfy you properly, so there’s no need to be angry with him.

If you are really so uncomfortable with your boyfriend touching himself, take matters into your own hands and help him out.

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