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SEX TALK Ask Dr Angela: I pay my toyboy's rent so I expect him to be faithful in return


Sad couple mad at each other in their living room

Sad couple mad at each other in their living room

Sad couple mad at each other in their living room

Open-minded and practical, Dr Angela Brokmann has answered the nation's sex problems for 18 years. Here, she answers your dilemmas.

Dear Angela,

For the last two years I (46) have been in a relationship with a much younger man (27). We always have so much fun when we’re together. We both love travelling, we like the same movies and the same music. And we have amazing sex.

When we go out together I always pay the bill because I earn much more than he does. I also pay half of his rent, although we don’t live together.

I don’t mind helping my boyfriend financially, but I expect him to be faithful to me in return. And now I found out that he’s had a second girlfriend the whole time, a girl around his own age. That explains why he only wants to see me once or twice a week. I feel so hurt and I’m so angry.

My best friend told me from the start that he was only interested in my money, and now I’m afraid that she was right about that. I feel stupid for wasting so much money on him. I don’t know what to do now, but it can’t go on like this.


If you are in a relationship with somebody on a smaller budget it’s perfectly ok if you cover your dating expenses, and if you help your partner financially. But it’s not ok if people take advantage of your generosity.

You need to have a serious chat with him. Talk about your feelings and clarify what you expect from him. Make it clear that you want an exclusive relationship. If your lover does not want you to be exclusive, it would be best if you stopped seeing him before you get hurt even more.

  • Have you got a dilemma? Get in touch! Email dr.angela@sundayworld.com.

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