Ask Dr Angela: I found out my fiancé has a second family — what should I do?

Dear Angela,

My fiancé (37) and I (28) met five years ago, and we have a three-year old daughter together.

He usually spends Thursday to Monday at home and then travels for work the rest of the week. Or that's what I thought.

I've just learned that he spends the other nights with his second family, a woman and two kids. I know because the woman rang me when she found out about me and my daughter.

When I confronted my fiancé, he confessed that he has a second family but he said he loves me more and that he's willing to give them up.

However, I don't trust him anymore. What if he promised the other woman the same?

She wanted to meet me to talk but I refused because I hate her so much. Now I'm having second thoughts.

Maybe I should go to see her? I have so many questions.

Answer: I understand that there's no love lost between you two women, but there's no reason to hate each other as neither of you did anything wrong; your fiancé is the only one to blame for the mess you're in.

Go and talk; you're both going through exactly the same trouble, and while talking will hurt, it will also help you to heal.

And once you're talking, your fiancé won't get away with his lies anymore.