Sex Talk Ask Dr Angela: How can I keep both my swinging partner and my boyfriend?
A few months ago, my boyfriend (37) and I (36) rented an apartment with a couple we've known since college. We were best friends and sometimes swapped partners; the odd time, we all slept together. But then, our friends split up and the girl moved out. Since then, the remaining three of us have lived in a happy three-way relationship. But now, there's trouble: the guy fell in love with me and wants us to be exclusive. He wants me to split up with my boyfriend, but I'd never do that. I love my boyfriend. Ideally, I'd like to keep the two of them.
A relationship between three people can be fun for a while, but it's very hard to make it work for long. Jealousy tends to get in the way. Talk to your friend; make it clear that you love your boyfriend and that you won't leave him. You can all discuss the situation and try to make it work. If he doesn't accept your decision, you can still be friends, but no more.