Ask Dr Angela: How can I dominate my boyfriend in the bedroom?

Dear Angela,

My boyfriend (35) is big into dominance games. He bosses me around in bed, he grabs my wrists and pins them down over my head; he gets on top with all his weight on me, stuff like that.

I (29) am OK with this, although I wish I could take control at least the odd time.

But after almost 10 years of playing the submissive role I wouldn't even know what to do.

To make it more complicated, my boyfriend is strictly dominant so I'd have to take a bit of control without him noticing what's going on.

My best friend said I should just tell my boyfriend that he needs to share control with me but I don't want to make a big move like that. I'd feel more powerful if I could do it the sneaky way.

Answer: You don't need to make big moves to take control. When you make love in the missionary position with your boyfriend on top, wrap your legs firmly around your man's body.

It will restrain his movements and you'll be in charge of the pace and rhythm.

Let your boyfriend pin down your wrists if he's into that; it will make him feel dominant while in reality, it's you who's in charge.

Use your imagination to find other ways to secretly take some control.