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Horror Man repeatedly raped by his brother devastated as sibling appeals conviction

Brave survivor Thomas told how his parents took his brother's side and he was forced out of the family home

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Thomas Daly bravely waived his right to anonymity

Thomas Daly bravely waived his right to anonymity

Thomas Daly bravely waived his right to anonymity

A man who was repeatedly raped by his own brother has told of his horror after his sex fiend sibling appealed his conviction just three weeks after being jailed for his crimes.

Teacher Graham Daly, who was locked up in the Midlands Prison for eight-and-a-half years on January 24 for the repeated rapes of his brother Thomas, issued appeal proceedings early this week.

Today, Thomas - who waived his anonymity in order that Graham's crimes could be known - tells how the peace he felt after his brother was convicted has been shattered by this latest legal move.

But he also urges other victims to come forward, saying his decision to go to the gardai over the abuse - even though his parents stood by his sibling - has allowed him to find happiness away from his family.

"Sgt Paul Crowley, the lead garda on my case, texted me to let me know he was appealing," the courageous abuse survivor told the Sunday World.

"In a way, I was expecting it, but I was hoping he would accept his fate. But no, he continues to put me through this hell.

"I had two weeks of normality after he was jailed - two weeks of a normal regular life. But I just think he is never going to accept what he did.

"But he should never have done this to me in the first place."

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Teacher Graham Daly started abusing his brother when he was just 10

Teacher Graham Daly started abusing his brother when he was just 10

Teacher Graham Daly started abusing his brother when he was just 10

 

At Graham Daly's sentencing hearing three weeks ago, details of his systematic sexual abuse of his younger sibling - and of how the men's parents stood by the rapist - were laid bare in devastating detail.

Sergeant Paul Crowley told Patrick McGrath SC, prosecuting, that the abuse began when Graham Daly started inappropriately touching his younger brother, then aged 10.

The abuse then progressed to rape, the court heard and only ended when the older brother left home.

Sentencing Daly, Judge Karen O'Connor said the 37-year-old was "a big brother who should have protected his younger brother".

Instead, Daly abused his brother, Thomas, over a four-year period from when the boy was 10-years-old.

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Patricia Daly

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Patricia Daly

 

Most of the abuse took place in the family home in Co Limerick on dates between January 1998 and December 2002, the trial was told.

Daly, the court heard, does not accept the verdict of the jury and continues to maintain his innocence.

The evil sex beast suggested his brother Thomas was "lying because he was jealous of his achievements" and that the younger man "wanted to destroy his older brother's life" because he had disclosed to his parents that his younger brother is gay, the court heard.

The men's parents sided with Daly against their younger son.

Ms Justice O'Connor paid tribute to Thomas Daly, who she said conducted himself in a dignified manner throughout the trial process.

She noted the abuse has had a devastating impact on his life and on his family life.

Handing down an eight-and-a-half-year sentence, Ms Justice O'Connor said that had Daly been an adult at the time of the offending, she would have imposed a longer sentence.

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Thomas Daly speaks to our reporter Patrick

Thomas Daly speaks to our reporter Patrick

Thomas Daly speaks to our reporter Patrick

 

However, she noted she had to treat Daly as a juvenile because the abuse of his brother ended around the time he turned 18.

In his victim impact statement, Thomas Daly described how his parents initially supported him when he confided in his father about the abuse in 2015.

Thomas said he had kept the abuse a secret for 18 years and it was "such a relief to share the burden".

His father accompanied him when he went to gardaí early in 2016.

However, he said it soon emerged that his parents were only prepared to support him if he kept the abuse "among ourselves".

"Why should I stay silent?" Thomas said, adding: "I was happy for everyone to know," but said this proved "detrimental" to his family life.

"[My parents] blamed me, took the side of my brother and I was forced out of the family home," he said.

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Ger Daly

Ger Daly

Ger Daly

 

Thomas said he used to have sympathy for his parents, but not any more.

Speaking with the Sunday World this week, Thomas told us: "My mam and dad - it's easier for them to believe that I am a liar than it is to believe their eldest son is a paedophile rapist.

"It can be hard for people to understand but what they did to me is almost worse.

"They took my side for almost eight months but only until I said I was going to the guards. They wanted me to brush it under the carpet, but I didn't want to do that.

"They were worried about their own reputations and to save their own reputations they had to save him."

Thomas also hit out at the fact that Graham will automatically qualify for 25 per cent remission off his sentence - despite his unwillingness to admit to his crimes.

"It feels like he is having the best of both worlds," he said.

"He gets the 25 per cent off and there is nothing I can do about that.

"But I don't believe you should get the 25 per cent off if you appeal the conviction - because you are getting out early even though you are refusing to accept responsibility for what you did.

"It's me who has been left suffering the life sentence. It's me who had to go to court … liked by none and hated by many and I didn't do a thing wrong.

"Now, because of the appeal it's constantly hanging over me again.

"After the court case, I felt this tremendous weight had lifted, but now the monkey is back on my shoulders again.

"I want to move on - but he's not letting me."

Despite the ongoing legal moves by Graham Daly, Thomas insisted he doesn't regret coming forward.

"I kept what happened to me in for 14 or 15 years," he said.

"I'd say to other people don't do that.

"Don't do what I did.

"Speak up, because you will find people who will love you for you."

If you have been affected by any of the issues raised in this article, you can call the national 24-hour Rape Crisis Helpline at 1800 77 8888, access text service and webchat options at drcc.ie/services/helpline/, or visit Rape Crisis Help.

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