I celebrated my first wedding anniversary without my husband because we haven’t spoken to each other for two months after a massive row. I love him and I’m sure he loves me but the argument just escalated out of control and now look at us.
Nobody knows about this. We’ve managed to pretend whenever we’re out with family or friends. I’ve had enough but I don’t want to back down. The row was over my mother, typical I know. I now realise that my husband was right about stuff to do with her but at the time I didn’t want to admit that.
How do we break this deadlock? We’re both in our late twenties.
Maura says: Someone has to talk or at least get yourselves into a position where you both give in simultaneously. There must be moments when you are together that could be used to reignite some conversation.
Are you still sleeping in the same bed? You can orchestrate a situation that will lead to you opening up about what has been going on. It’s very unhealthy to let this amount of time pass without speaking.
The mature approach is to resolve rows before the end of the day. You love each other so let that be the guiding force in moving on from this impasse.