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Our sexpert Dr Angela reveals all on kinky sex games

Our sexpert Dr Angela reveals all on kinky sex games

Is there anything you always wanted to know about sex but were too shy to ask?

Do you have a problem that keeps bothering you, or is there something you're just curious about?

Whatever might be on your mind - don't be shy to ask. 

I've been a sex expert for more than 25 years, and have answered thousands of questions from basic to extremely kinky - but people still surprise me the odd time with a question I've never been asked before.

Let's have a look at some questions on sex games.


How can I persuade my shy wife to give me oral sex?

Share a bath with your wife and invite her to scrub you down.

Once she has soaped you off, any concerns she might have about hygiene should be dispelled, so that’s your chance to ask for an intimate kiss.

If she’s still reluctant, cover your best piece with a flavoured condom, it will help your wife to overcome her shyness and inhibitions.

As another tactic, go ahead and treat her to oral sex first – with a bit of luck she’ll return the favour.


What is 69?

69 means mutual oral sex between two people: Your partner gives you oral sex, while you spoil her or him simultaneously.

The number 69 indicates how your bodies are positioned to each other, with one of you lying upside down to the other.


How do you play food games?

There is a wide range of food games you can play, from pretty innocent ones to real kinky.

Snack off each other's chests and bellies: use fruit, ice-cream, chocolate, whatever you fancy.

Lap the goodies up with your tongue. If you like it hot, snack treats off each others’ genitals.


Is masturbation unhealthy, does it have any ill effects?

No. In case you’re worried that masturbation might leave you with crooked fingers or that it might make your penis shrink or leave you infertile – that’s not going to happen, these are only myths that people tell to keep their children from touching themselves.

Masturbation is good for you as it can improve your happiness, your health and your overall wellbeing.


Can I visit a swingers' club on my own?

It depends on the club. 

In general, single women are more than welcome.

For men it’s much trickier – some clubs don’t allow men only, others impose a steep fee. It’s important to check a club’s rules before you go.


What is vanilla sex - Is it kinky?

Vanilla sex isn't kinky at all, on the contrary - the term is used for conventional, everyday, non-adventurous, non-kinky sexual activities.

Some regard vanilla sex as bland and boring but it can be extremely intimate and fulfilling when shared with the right partner.


We like being watched when we make love - Should we try group sex?

If you like an audience when you make love, then group sex is certainly an option.

Before you join a session, check out the rules.

Most of the time you are free to do as you please; but some organizers expect you to let others join in if they feel like it.

Before you go for it, work out some rules between you – at the very least you need to agree on how far you’re willing to go.


Is it ok to play doctor games? And where can you find proper clothing and medical instruments?

A good few folks here in Ireland enjoy playing doctor; some just harmlessly explore their partner’s body, pretending they’re a doctor or a nurse, while others indulge in full blown medical fetishism, eroticising medical activities, medical instruments and garments.

It’s fine as long as nobody gets hurt and everybody involved enjoys it.

You can find all you need in medical supply stores and in fetish shops on the internet.

Keep in mind that medical instruments are not meant for untrained hands, so if you want to use one anyway you need to be extremely careful.