Relationships & SexDr Angela

I like lesbian porn… is there something wrong with me?

Dr AngelaBy Dr. Angela Brokmann
'I like lesbian porn... is there something wrong with me?'
'I like lesbian porn... is there something wrong with me?'

Dear Angela

A mate showed me a lesbian porn DVD. Two girls were touching and kissing each others’ breasts. Now I can’t get these pictures out of my head. I’m constantly fantasising about lesbian sex - not only kissing and touching, but girls making love. Although I’m not sure how girls do it. Is something wrong with me? Is it ok if I watch the DVD again to find out more about lesbian sex?

ANGELA SAYS: There’s nothing wrong with you. Most guys fantasise about lesbian love; it’s one of the most male common sexual fantasies. A big part of the fascination is the mystery that still surrounds love between women, and the desire to explore what’s really going on. Go ahead and watch the DVD again, but keep in mind that porn doesn’t give you a realistic picture of what love and sex are all about.

 

Should we go to just ‘view’ the neighbours’ sex party? 

Dear Angela

My husband (27) and I (23) received an invitation for a sex party. Our next door neighbours, a couple in their 30s, are organising it. They’ve been having sex parties for years, they’re part of a private swingers’ club. They told us all that when they moved into the neighbourhood earlier this year.

They’re nice people and we have no problem with their sex parties, but we don’t want to join in. We’ve thought about it, but came to the conclusion it’s not for us. Maybe in a few years’ time, but we’ve only been married for six months and have no interest in sleeping with other people right now.

The problem is that my husband would love to see what’s going on at these parties - he thinks we should go and stick together and not sleep with anybody. But I don’t think that would work. I’d rather refuse the invitation in a polite way. Should we go or should we leave it?

ANGELA SAYS: I can understand your husband’s curiosity, but that said, I totally agree with you - If you don’t want to get sexually involved with other people, it’s best to skip the sex party, otherwise you’d get yourselves into an awkward situation.

 

Why are girls so different in bed?

Dear Angela

I’ve (28) had sex with 11 women. Not even two of them were the same in bed.

They were all different - quick, slow, like a plank, dominant, wild (screaming and scratching). One even tried to tie me up.

I can’t work out why they were all so different. How can I tell up front what a woman will be like in bed?

ANGELA SAYS: Every woman has her own preferences in bed, depending on her personal tastes and her sexual history. Some like an active role while others prefer to relax and let the man do the work. Some love slow and tender movements, others like it quick and rough, others like a mix of both.

When you meet a woman for the first time, there is no way to tell for sure what she’ll be like in bed – every first time is a surprise, even if you talk about your sexual perferences beforehand.