Relationships & SexDr Angela

I don’t like her fetish for kinky bondage

Dr AngelaBy Dr. Angela Brokmann
Girl likes to crack the whip
Girl likes to crack the whip

Dear Angela

My new lady friend (45) and I (52) have only been together for five weeks, and she’s already coming up with some pretty weird ideas for the bedroom. I think she’s reading the wrong books – she wants to try all this weird 50 Shades stuff.

I let her use blindfolds and whips on me, thinking she might get over this madness and then have real, normal sex with me, but that didn’t happen. It’s only getting worse. Now she wants to put me in chains for sex, and I don’t feel comfortable with that. I didn’t even like it when she tied me up with her nylons.

These games are not for me. On the other hand, I admire her adventurous spirit, and I’m wondering whether I should maybe play along and see how I like it.

ANGELA SAYS: Don’t play along with games that you don’t feel comfortable with, especially when it comes to heavy stuff like serious bondage. You didn’t even like getting tied up in nylons, so it’s very unlikely that you’d enjoy sex in chains.

Your lady friend might have more than a passing interest in bondage – it looks more like a serious passion to me, so you need to talk to her. Tell her that you don’t like bondage, and let her know what your own sexual ideas are about.

Be open with each other, and hopefully you’ll find some common ground for a mutually satisfying sex life.

 

Husband had a gay love

Dear Angela

Before we got married, my husband (40) had a short sexual relationship with another man. He only told me a few weeks ago. Now I can’t stop worrying. If he fell in love with a man once, surely it can happen again. That’d be the end of our marriage.

He assured me that he only had sex with that man out of curiosity, and that he loves only me and that he has no interest in other people. But although this affair happened almost 20 years ago I can’t stop worrying that my husband might fall in love with a man again.

ANGELA SAYS: What if he falls in love with another woman? That’s a much more likely scenario. But honestly, I can’t see why you should be worried at all. Your husband loves you, and he wants to be with you only. So trust him, and stop torturing yourself - and him - with unfounded jealousy and worries.

 

She toots when she orgasms

Dear Angela

My girlfriend (29) and I (32) have been together for two months, and we had sex ten times. It was always great, but when she orgasms something strange happens: she breaks wind.

I don’t say anything as I didn’t want to embarrass her. I thought it was maybe just an accident. But it happens with every orgasm.

When I finally asked her whether she’s doing that on purpose she said yes, it makes her orgasm more intense. Is this normal?

ANGELA SAYS: For a majority of women, breaking wind during intercourse wouldn’t be a normal part of their sexual repertoire. But breaking wind close to an orgasm is not that unusual – what’s unusual is that she gets a kick out of it and that it helps her to climax.

But that’s no big deal as long as you don’t mind and it doesn’t spoil your own fun.