Relationships & SexDr Angela

Dr Angela reveals Ireland's Top 50 sex questions: Part 1

Dr Angela answers all your questions
Dr Angela answers all your questions

Is there anything you always wanted to know about sex but were too shy to ask?

Do you have a problem that keeps bothering you, or is there something you're just curious about?

Whatever might be on your mind - don't be shy to ask.

I've been a sex expert for more than 25 years, and have answered thousands of questions from basic to extremely kinky - but people still surprise me the odd time with a question I've never been asked before.

Let's have a look at the Top 50 questions that came my way recently, starting with several queries about male and female genitalia.

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Can clitorises vary in appearance, or are they all the same?

Clitorises can vary in size and shape, the same as penises – just on a smaller scale. The tip of the clitoris can be hidden or visible, and during arousal the clitoris changes colour and size – it can even change position.

My vagina is too wide - How can I make it tighter?

Try the Kegel exercises: contract the muscles in your pelvic floor for a few seconds, then release them, contract them again and so on. Do this twice per day for five minutes, and you should see results after a few weeks. Choose sex positions that tighten the vagina: Try intercourse with your legs closed. As a last resort you can consider a vaginal tuck (vaginoplasty), a surgical procedure to tighten the vaginal muscle and supporting tissue.

Is there a cure for vaginal dryness?

Vaginal dryness is often a sign for insufficient arousal. Take at least 20-30 minutes for foreplay – that’s the average time a woman needs to get physically ready for sex. When in a hurry for some reason, use a lubricant. If dryness occurs during menopause, a gynaecologist can help.

Where is the G-spot?

It’s still controversial whether the G-spot exists – there is no sufficient scientific proof, neither for a female G-spot nor for a male one. Anyway, the female G-spot is supposed to be located a couple of inches inside the vagina, towards the front. Men can have a magic pleasure button as well: their prostate.

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What can you do if your penis is too small?

Choose positions that allow deep penetration, like doggy style or woman on top. Stay clear of penis enlargement pills, stretching and penis weight lifting – they won’t increase your size permanently and they can cause serious harm. Be careful with enlargement surgery as it has undesirable side effects.

It seems to be crucial for a man to be well equipped, but believe me – women find other values much more important.

Can a penis be too big?

A penis can be too big, but that doesn’t occur too often. The vagina widens and elongates with sexual arousal; it’s so flexible that it allows even a huge penis to fit. To make entrance easy, take time for foreplay and keep a lubricant at hand. Choose positions that don’t allow full penetration, or encircle the penis shaft with your hand to keep him from getting in too deep.

What is the best remedy for PE (Premature Ejaculation)?

As a quick and easy fix, masturbate before intercourse. For a long-term solution, practice the start and stop technique: Bring yourself close to an orgasm, then stop for a few seconds. Start again, go a bit further this time but stop again before you climax. Repeat this 5-6 times. For best results exercise on your own first, then try with your partner.

What causes ED (Erectile Dysfunction), and is there a cure?

In mature men, ED is mainly caused by medical factors like diabetes or bad circulation, while in younger men psychological factors like stress and anxiety are predominant. In all age groups, alcohol and drug abuse take their toll. The best way to enhance your potency is a healthy life style. In many cases, prescription drugs can help. If you suffer from ED, consult your GP.