Is your relationship holding you back?
Relationships are all about caring, sharing and having someone who makes you feel complete. However, as time goes by things may change and the red flags you chose to overlook at the beginning could end up impossible to ignore. Your other half may be holding you back in life, but how do you know this for sure? America’s Women’s Health magazine spoke to some experts to get their advice on when a relationship is affecting you in a negative way.
They pull you up on your flaws
You let them see you at your worst safe in the knowledge that they will love you no matter what. But if your significant other becomes more and more critical of you, whether it’s the way you look or act, it’s not a good sign and you need to stop it pronto.
"Instead of letting their criticism shut you down, let your partner know that you’d love to hear what you’re doing well, instead of what you’re still working on,” Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., a licenced psychotherapist, recommends.
They don’t support your goals
Someone who doesn’t cheer you on or encourage you in your goals and dreams is definitely going to pull you down. You shouldn’t simply rely on friends and family for this – your other half should be your biggest supporter!
"If you find they’re not taking you seriously, then take the steps toward making that goal become a reality," Dawn Michael, Ph.D., a relationship counsellor in California, tells Women’s Health. "They can come along for the ride or exit stage left."
Likewise, it’s not a good sign when your partner gets angry and resentful for your achievements. Whatever you do, don’t stop trying or striving because of this – it could be down to self-confidence issues, and it’s best to address them sooner than later.
They stop you enjoying every area of life
It’s only natural to feel down when you’ve had an argument with your other half, but if every area of your life is held back and made miserable because of them, then you’re on a rocky road. It’s even worse if they prevent you from doing the things you love, whether it’s going out with friends or a regular class.
However, it has to be mutual, or else the relationship will crumble. “Both people have to be on-board with the idea of you doing more outside the relationship,” Grant H. Brenner, M.D., a Manhattan-based psychiatrist, noted.