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Why did I let body shaming trolls get to me over this picture?

Why did I let body shaming trolls get to me over this picture?

We now live in a world where people feel they can have an opinion on everyone.

There is no line under what is okay and not okay to say because we have the internet to hide behind.

While I was in Cyprus last week I got papped on the beach during filming. I have no issue with being in a bikini, I train hard and eat well, plus I post pictures in my bikini myself, so I don’t really care if other people publish pictures of me (although it can be annoying when you don’t realise it’s happening).

The photos went up on a few sites and I stupidly read the comments. I literally can’t help myself, if there’s comments I’ll look, even though I know the majority of them will be negative.

Lo and behold, the comments were awful, calling me fat, saying I had cankles, chunky legs and cellulite.

I can’t say they didn’t upset me, of course they did, I work hard on my body, particularly my legs, which will never be stick thin.

It upset me for quite a bit of the day and I could feel myself thinking maybe I should hold back a bit on the food and train a little bit more, but after a phone call from my mom, sense was restored.

I am 64 kilos, 5’11 and have a body fat percentage of 17; I do not need to lose any weight. I’m happy with my body, my legs are my legs and, to be honest, I’m proud of them because I work so hard on them.

I have an athletic build and that’s what I want, I don’t want to be super skinny.

I don’t want to be unhealthy and stick thin because I prefer to be toned.

So I don’t need to change my body. What needs to change is the way people comment on others. The best part of the human race is that we are all different, we come in all shapes and sizes and nobody can decide what’s perfect.

What is perfect to one person may not be perfect for the other. So many people suffer from eating disorders and it’s easy to see why. We are all taught to chase some silly level of perfection when in reality we are perfect the way we are – well I could probably swear a little less, but I’m working on that!!

It just really annoyed me because I am quite body confident and I allowed people to make me think that it was me that needed to change.

My biological clock should be screaming 

I read an article this week about the possibility of motherless babies in the future. 

Scientists managed to create a litter of mouse pups without fertilising a female egg. If they could get this to work in humans it would mean anyone with fertility issues could still have children. 

Scientists in the University of Bath made this possible by something called parthenogenotes – egg cells that have been ‘tricked’ into becoming embryos without being fertilised by sperm. 

Parthenogenotes die by themselves after a few days, but injecting them with sperm keeps them alive. The embryos developed normally and were then inserted into female mice. 

I have friends that have fertility problems and it’s so awful for them. 

I have often thought about my own fertility, but have never gotten it checked out. 

I’ve been on some form of contraception since the age of 18 and I often wonder if that in itself would affect my fertility. 

I think a lot of pressure is put on women about when is the right time to have a child and if I went with what everyone said, that ticking clock should be screaming in my ears by now.

It’s no longer appropriate to ask someone when they’re planning to have children because you never know what struggles people may have.

With so many developments in science over the years, it’s becoming possible for more and more people to become parents and have the child they so desperately want, regardless of their circumstances.