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Sex shouldn’t make men heroes and women sluts

Vogue WilliamsBy Vogue Williams
Vogue Williams
Vogue Williams

This week the topic of ‘slut shaming’ is on my mind.

It came from an incident in the Big Brother house. 

There is a former Hollyoaks star called Stephanie Davis in the house, who upon entry was professing her undying love for her boyfriend.

Cut to a week later and Stephanie has her eyes very firmly set on Jeremy McConnell, the good-looking Irish guy in the house.

Things have heated up and they’ve kissed, with her boyfriend publicly dumping her on the outside.

Now in this situation I think she is very much in the wrong. Okay, Jeremy shouldn’t be going there either, but she is the one in the relationship.

However, what has happened now is a clear case of slut shaming and double standards.

You have Scott telling Jeremy that Steph has tried it on with him too – I mean, who cares? She’s a 22-year-old girl and that’s what most of us do at 22. But it’s always different if it’s a girl because automatically she’s seen as a ‘slut’. It really annoys me.

After another argument in the house between Steph and Gemma, all the boys chimed in on who Steph has tried it on with and basically made her out again to be some type of ‘slut’.

Some of these are boys who like to boast that they’ve had sex with over a thousand women and talk about how it’s funny and cool to have sex on TV.

I can’t imagine why, but they seem to attract a lot of female attention. Why is it okay for these boys to act like this, yet it’s so bad that Steph wanted to go on a date with them?

Women and men are viewed completely differently when it comes to sex; we have to be all virginal while the men are patted on the  back for the amount of conquests they’ve had.

Revenge porn seems to now be a weapon and again women are mostly the victims, as some men would see the posting of their sexual history online as a badge of honour.

Thankfully people are now being prosecuted for this.

Everyone is entitled to do what they please and if they choose to be promiscuous so be it, but it shouldn’t make a girl a slut and a man a hero.

He’s positively great

I’m a big fan of Conor McGregor, and one of the things I like most about him is how self-assured and confident he is.

I follow him on Instagram and he is always posting photos of his lavish lifestyle, making us all very jealous.

He posted one recently about his new Lamborghini Aventador – what a car! – but he also put a really cool message with it.

He said: “I’m not trying to rub it in posting these. We don’t even have these at home. I am blessed. I celebrate and reward each of these good moments with more hard work and effort. And through this I receive more good moments.

“Nice things in life are motivating. They are designed to push you further. Embrace them. Use them as motivation and you will have them.”

I don’t know about anyone else, but I looked at that and thought he’s dead right. You can have anything you really want if you put your mind to it and work hard.

Seeing what Conor has achieved in the last few years is pretty inspirational.

I think a bit of positivity can go a long way in anyone’s life.