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Other wives are living in fear of a Hawe tragedy

Other wives are living in fear of a Hawe tragedy

I worry about loved ones feeling suicidal but Hawe tragedy was cold blooded murder.

The awful murder-suicide of the Hawe family in Cavan sparked a massive surge in calls to the Women’s Aid helpline.

I found it quite frightening as it shows the possibility of more tragedies like this occurring.

There are obviously women and families out there fearful that something like this could happen to them.

I tried to stay somewhere in the middle in the debate over Alan Hawe either being dubbed evil or mentally ill in my column last week.

I only did so because the story was very new and I didn’t know the full details of it.

The bottom line is that this poor family were murdered in the most brutal way by someone who was meant to keep them safe.

The moments before their deaths are unimaginable. Clodagh Hawe desperately tried to save her children before being bludgeoned to death with a hatchet. Alan Hawe  was not mentally ill, he was a cold-blooded killer.

Spousal abuse happens every single day in Ireland and whether it’s mental or physical, people are living in fear of their partners. Women’s Aid is such fantastic charity and anyone who is in need of help can find it with them. You are never alone.

As it happens, yesterday was World Suicide Prevention Day.

It was marked with many Irish landmark buildings being lit up in orange to highlight the message that ‘it’s OK not to feel OK, and it’s absolutely OK to ask for help if you are feeling this way’.

Suicide is a huge, silent issue in Ireland, especially among young males and I think marking the day can only be a positive. It allows people to know that they aren’t alone in the way they feel and it brings awareness to it.

I don’t think there is a person in the world who hasn’t been affected by suicide in one way or another.

I have had family friends lose their lifes to suicide and it’s just devastating, as you always wonder if you could have helped.

I have a lot of people who are close to me that suffer from depression and I do worry that they consider suicide. The only thing you can do for someone who is suffering is to be there for them and listen.

You can’t get them out of their depression, but listening helps, so ask people if they are OK.

Stephen Fry has openly discussed his battle with depression and I love his quote on it: “If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.

“Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do.”

I’m so inspired by Chris

I went to a dinner in Chelsea last week (right) in aid of raising awareness for HIV. My friend Christopher Baldwin hosts the event twice a year and I always go to show my support.

He was diagnosed with HIV and is on a mission to stop the stigma surrounding it. His efforts to help fellow HIV patients is truly inspiring.

Trend hard to bare

What about the crotch-baring dress! It seems that fashion has taken a new turn and its definitely not one I’m into. I spotted a few girls like Bella Hadid wearing the trend earlier this year and some other ladies flashed the flesh at a movie premiere in Venice.

Dresses that are cut right up to the stomach not only show a lot of leg, but a good serving of the lady garden as well.

I do flash a bit of leg – I work hard on them in the gym so why not – but I would not be into flashing much more. I don’t think it’s a nice look and these girls must spend all night making sure everything is where it’s supposed to be.

I think it ruins a perfectly beautiful dress and makes it look tacky. Hopefully this trend ends soon or Ill have to avert my eyes.

Garden Party

I was DJing for the Lady Garden event in Topshop again this year. I love being a part of their campaign, which is helping the Gynaecological Cancer Fund.

It is bringing to light the silent killer that is cervical cancer. A lot of people don’t go for regular smears and it’s so important; I go every year, but some of my friends rarely go, which is not good.

The event was great and a portion of the money of each jumper sold goes to the Gynaecological Cancer Fund.

The women who run the Lady Garden campaign are so amazing and I’ve become great friends with them over the last year.